Hey, you cannot even imagine how intensely flattered I am by your calling me “…this generation’s Wayne Thiebaud”. Wow! He is one of my Gods. Thank you so much!

It’s also about adaptability too, which goes along with choice. There are just going to be some friends who are not at the same place you are in life, who are not near you, who you never hang out with, but you are still friends nonetheless. You both make that effort.

And, yeah, good blog and comments everyone! Well done.

As for the history of the SATC characters I see a prequel possibility. Think about it. Scarlett Johanneson as Samantha, Anne Hathaway as Charlotte, Lauren Ambrose as Miranda, and last but not least Kristen Bell as Carrie Bradshaw. Think about it. It’s a gold mine waiting to be escavated!

and can i just say how much i am enjoying everyone’s beautifully thoughtful and extremely articulate responses? comments like these explain why i think so much about friendship– cos i have amazing friends!

But yeah, as in all things, my faith is in the science with this one: initially, it’s all about proximity (but Internet Proximity is changing that, hence Erin’s friendship worlds and the community of this blog). The good thing about the science winning out over romantic concepts like destiny, though, is that you can do something about it. Want to meet new friends? Just go where they are.

Last night, for instance, I was stupid tired after finishing the export for the Monster Rock Sing-Along. It was 2am when I was leaving the office, and I wanted to get to bed so I could start my day today early. But I’ve also been thinking that I want to have more of a real connection with the staff so I don’t feel so weird when they all know my name and I don’t know anything about them. So when I saw a small group of them hanging out and having a last beer, I decided to just sit there too, and even though I didn’t get up as early as I wanted to this morning, putting myself in that situation still feels like the right choice, and meeting the people that work with me in a closer context feels like it can only help me with my myriad projects.

So I say Destiny is a lot like Luck. To get Lucky, you’ve got to prepare and practice and work your ass off. Then when there’s a random Opportunity, you can get lucky. Destiny, I think, isn’t a force guiding us into the future, but a road we can look back on. It doesn’t push us around one curve or another, but once things have happened we can look back and see how they *had* to happen that way, because without taking that left turn back in Albuquerque, we couldn’t be here now. That’s true, of course, but we would’ve still been somewhere else that would have seemed just as inevitable. It’s nice to look back and see the twists that brought us to this destiny, though.

And I agree with Ann - this blog post is totally your Carrie post, Sarah. The sentence, “in spite of the science, i can’t help but wonder, is it just destiny?” sounds like it was ripped out of one of voice overs word for word.

But I also think it makes sense, and that this post kind of crystallizes the essence of this whole PoshDeluxe thing. Because whereas Carrie writes about men and that kind of relationship and whether it can exist and how it could exist and all of that, all of your posts, in some way or another, are really about friendships and how they can exist and where the magic is in them and how it all works. Even when you’re just writing about adventures we’ve had over the weekend, the focus is generally on the friends we were with or the ones we met. And then the interviews are obviously all about friends as opposed to trying to interview the typical movers and shakers…

nd of course Carrie’s world is all about how to meet one special man in the throngs of people in her immediate proximity, while yours is more about how to keep your friends when they’re no longer in your immediate proximities. From now on, therefore, I’m going to refer to this blog as Platonics and the Cities.

There are some friendships I made in junior high and high school that I still have and I am so grateful because they turned out to be some the most intriguing and interesting people I know.

It is hard to stay friends with people that have gone through life changes that you haven’t (marriage, children). Of my 2 close friends I mentioned before, they are both married, as am I, but one has 3 kids with another on the way, but the other is still kid-free, like me. I must say, I have a closer relationship with my kid-free friend because we are on the same page as far as big life changing decisions are concerned. My friend with all the rugrats pretty much only talks about babies which I don’t have any concept of so it can get a little frustrating at times.

I’m still figuring friendship out though because I forget that friends like it when you call them up and invite them to go do something…or just call them period. I’m working on it.

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